Balancing Your Life: Online and Offline | Thursday Ramblings

Balancing Your Life: Online and Offline
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Hello bookworms and welcome back! It’s Thursday and that means it is time for another installment of Thursday Ramblings!

Thursday Ramblings is a casual feature/meme here on Josie’s Book Corner where I pick a topic and discuss it with you. This is a casual post, filled with rambling and chatting! So basically, we are simply having a conversation about the topic at hand! 

This week I’ve decided to focus on a topic that many of us deal with in our lives and I’m sure, being bloggers, things can get challenging when trying to balance your online life with all the shenanigans of your offline life.

As many of you know, I went on a hiatus last Thursday in which I claimed I was going to be away for the rest of the month. Obviously I didn’t even last a week. First of all, I want to thank you all for your monumental support and love. You guys are amazing and I just want to squeeze you all and bake you cookies!

Second of all, I came back because I felt much better (thank the Lord!) and I realized that I needed to better balance and manage my time for effectively and that is what led the inspiration for this week’s ramblings!

In conjunction with my blogging, which has become a very dominant part of my online life, I must also deal with the craziness of being in my last year of high school and the hectic assignments and studying that comes along with it. Add onto that my outside commitments to church and youth activities, my reading commitments that also get influenced by my blogging, my life was pretty much filled up! 

Isn’t it ironic that I started this blog the year that I would have the most pressure and the most work to do in school?

Thinking about it, I can’t believe I started this blog during my last year of high school, the year of studying like a madman for exams and doing assignments at the last moment possible (oops). But I do not regret starting this blog at this time in my life one bit. It’s been a great source of joy and happiness in which I met all you lovely people! 

But there comes a time when things get too hard to handle and your grip on everything begins to crumble. In the last two months, this happened to me. My school life with assignments and the ever looming darkness and evil that is exams pressed upon me, commitments outside of school started to rise, blogging became a much bigger commitment. Slowly, I started losing purpose. I started to constantly think about my life; about life in general and I would think to myself: “What’s the point in doing anything?In the end we all die.” Dark thoughts, I know. 

Things got even worse when I started to contemplate suicide. And let me point out that all these feelings came on gradually but reached a peak last month. And they came out of no where. Getting out of bed became even more difficult and most of my nights were spent feeling anxious and depressed. I could not concentrate enough to do any of my assignments and school work. It was horrible. And the added pressure of being a top student did not help one bit. 

When I couldn’t handle the pain of tearing myself apart any longer, I went to see my school psychologist. It felt good to release all the thoughts and pain. And all of you who messaged me on Twitter, you know who you are – you guys are amazing and really helped me! Of course, I didn’t get better right away, and I ended up having to reduce my church and youth commitments and my blogging commitments. 

ANYWHO. 

I know many of you who blog are students, but even if you’re not, I want to give you all some tips that I believe have helped me recently – as I have just recovered from my previous state – to keep my head in times when every part of my life has just been falling apart. 

I want to give you all some tips to manage your life online, while also balancing the demands of your life outside of blogging and reading and such. Because taking a break from blogging is just NOT an option (well, it is, but for me, I simply cannot stay away). So if you are having trouble with balancing everything, but loathe the idea of leaving the blogosphere, keep reading! 


Online:

Don’t be afraid to be less active on the blogosphere!

Now this is one that I really want to drill into those lovely brains of yours, especially if the idea of leaving the blogosphere for a certain amount of time – whether it be one week or a month – makes you want to cry. Don’t be scared to be a little less active. Don’t fear that if you don’t interact, comment of blog posts or post every day or as frequently as normal, you will lose followers and eyes on your blog. You won’t! These people comment and like your posts for a reason – because they like your blog! They will not be so easily lost. 

Loosen up your blogging schedule, dedicate certain days for blogging

Instead of going on a full on hiatus, all you have to do is loosen up your blogging schedule a bit. This could be posting something every second day, or even only posting two or three times a week. This is totally okay. Something else that might help is setting a certain time of day that is purely dedicated to blogging business. Or schedule a day when you can get multiple blog posts written and ready for future days. 

Dedicate a time in your day solely for blogging

For me this is during the evening from around 8pm and onwards. Having a set time for things makes your life so much easier. Maybe you’ve never been the kind of person to have set times for things in your day, maybe you like the spontaneity. But when there is so much going on in your life, it will be a big benefit to you to organize your time. 

Let your blogger friends know your situation, connect through social media

Bloggers are so supportive. You’ll see it right away. It blew me away to the point of tears at how compassionate and caring you guys are, you never fail to make me smile and never fail to make me feel all warm and fuzzy inside! If you are in a bad situation, let your followers and fellow bloggers know. They’ll support you, full throttle. 


Offline:

Prioritize and make the most of organisation strategies 

School can be one heck of a ride and when things seem to be getting out of hand, you need to take a step back and organize your thoughts and all the tasks you need to complete. Consider starting to use a planner, or plan a “week in review” page on a piece of paper, outlining everything you plan to do that week. Then in a small blank-paged, unlined notebook, list your to-dos for the day, for school and for life. Colour code them to make it more fun and interesting! However, be careful not to delegate to many tasks in one day! That leads me to my next point…

Don’t give yourself too many tasks to complete in one day!

You are only one person and there are only twenty-four hours in a day! Especially when stress hits, it can get hard to concentrate and you may find that it takes you longer to complete a task than usual. Take baby steps! Point out your most pressing task, the one that needs to be done the most and put that in today’s to-do list. Anything else goes into your week in review sheet.

Take small breaks by reading a chapter of your current book

 Of course, OF COURSE I am mentioning books! I like to work in thirty minute intervals with breaks in between. If you are a bookworm, which, if you are here on my blog, you MUST be (you better be…) then use your breaks to grab a cup of tea and read ONE chapter from your current read. Do your best not to read more than one, I know it’s tempting! 

Don’t be afraid to ask for breaks

This is something I’m very passionate about. Especially due to school, our mental states can get damaged with all the stress and pressure. It is crucial that we are allowed to have down time every now and then. If school is getting too hard, don’t be afraid to take a break for a day or so. My school allowed me to have a day where I didn’t have to go to any of my classes, but to have an unscheduled day of finishing work without any pressure. IT WAS AMAZING. If your school or university or your boss at work wont allow this kind of “mental day break”, then take a break at home by calling in sick! Your health is the most important thing here. 

Have days where you go out with friends and forget about all the pressures

I discovered how crucial and beneficial days with friends can be. Not all the time but when you are feeling stressed and under pressure, if your friends ask you to go out with them, give yourself the down time. You’ll find that you’ll feel much better afterwards. 


That is all I have for you today, bookworms! I hope this helped you all! I’m glad to be back in the blogosphere and I hope you are all happy to see me back so soon! 

If you have any other strategies for balancing online and offline life, comment down below!

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49 thoughts on “Balancing Your Life: Online and Offline | Thursday Ramblings

  1. So glad you’re back!! 🙂 And I love this wonderful advice here! Balancing life and blogging can be hard, and this post helps so much. ❤
    Also, you know if you ever need a friend, I'm here for you, right? 🙂 I'm so happy you've been able to balance things out. ❤

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    • I am glad to be back! And I am very happy that this post helped in some way! 😊
      Yes Analee, thank you for being here for me!! Well I’m still in the process but so far I’ve made a big improvement! ❤❤❤

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  2. Josie, much hugs and love your way! I’m so glad you reached out for help and then passed along the same advice. I think every blogger struggles with balance {I know I do!}, but it helps when you can surround yourself with great friends IRL and online. Thank you for such a terrific post! 🙂

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    • Thank you! Hugs and love right back at you!
      Yes, definitely, having a good support group of friends on both sides is amazing. And I will continue to share advice and anything to help anyone who might be going through my situation!
      Thank you for your lovely comment! 😀

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  4. I’m glad you’re back Josie! I hope you can balance out your school, social, and blogging life out to the point where you find happiness. You give great tips! Sometimes I feel like I need to step away from the blog too, which is why I have been posting less frequently then usual. This was such a great post that you might find it in a certain spotlight this week ;D

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  5. Thank you so much! These tips were so helpful!! Lately I’ve been all over the place with trying to put up posts on my blog and being super stressed about it. You’ve been doing such a great job balancing your school studies with blogging. Congrats!! And good luck for your upcoming exams. 🙂

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    • Yes you’re totally right on that. It’s all about time, it takes time to develop those skills and strategies to cope.
      Thank you for the lovely comment! I hope I remain on this good side.

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  6. This is actually my dillema. Being a mom and all, I find it hard to comply with all my responsibilities on my blog. But in the end of the day, I still managed because i have to. Honestly I felt accomplished whenever i get to post something because if I’ll thibk about it, all of my time is consumed by taking care of my son.

    Thanks Josie for posting this. 🙂

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    • Yay! I’m so glad it helped, that makes me feel so happy.
      School pressures are absolutely horrible. But when I changed my mindset and told myself I don’t have work SO hard and started organizing times to do my homework (straight after school) and blogging after school work, it helped me out greatly! If you need anymore help feel free to email me or chat with me on Twitter. 💕

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  7. Awesome post Josie! Those are really great tips. Taking a break once in while is really a good thing, it helps balancing your online and offline life. Too much pressure and stress will definitely effect you both mentally and physically. I also blog at the evening times because it’s the best time for me. Anyways, I’m glad that you are back and I hope you are feeling much better now. 😀

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    • Thank you! It’s amazing what a little break can do for your do for your spirit. I am very happy that you’re feeling better and not stressed! I hope that when you go back to work you’ll feel clear headed and maybe you’ll use some of my tips! 😳💕

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  8. This is such an amazing post, with so many great advices, on, and offline, I definitely will follow. It’s sometimes so hard to keep some time for blogging and for real life, and the pressure can be overwhelming. I’m really glad you overcome all of this, and happy to see you back on here! Always looking forward to more of your posts, Josie! 🙂 ❤

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    • Thank you so much! I’m glad the advice is good and that you’ll use it when you need it. I hope you don’t ever have to go through too much stress!
      I’m glad I overcame it too, it feels like such a relief to feel happy and not riddled with sad thoughts the moment I wake up! 😄
      Thank you, I look forward to posting more! 😳

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  9. Great tips! Good job because you’re so focused at your priorities at a young age. I feel so old now haha. 😂 When I was just a bit younger, I just do things that I want to do and almost nothing else aside from that. You see I was so good at cramming and was pretty a tenacious girl. But my grades were okay anyways even though I rarely studied. I get into all the universities that applied for. Things were pretty great. Anyways, the bad thing is, I brought the bad habits til college and look at me now, not so good haha. 😥 I wish I could be a bit more responsible. Old habits die really hard.
    Well, I didn’t know you’ve been into a lot of stress and other things. I’m proud of you sister because you’ve overcome it. Just be happy. 😄 I wish you all the best. 🙌

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    • Yes sometimes I feel very tempted to not study too hard because I’ve had many times where I don’t study and I end up getting too marks but I don’t know, there’s something within me that keeps pushing me to do my best. That did cause me stress the past few months but now I’ve finally started to get myself together again.
      That’s such a shame that things turned out that way for you! But it is never too late to turn your habits a a circumstances around!
      And thank you so much 💕💕💕

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      • I know. But I dont feel bad about my current situation really. I actually think it was a blessing in disguise because the past years I’ve been in college, I was stressing out a lot (a hell lot). It’s good to have a breather and do some soul-searching and to have time for myself finally. 💅 💆💇
        You’re such a good student. 👍🙆
        Good day ahead of us! 🌻🌸🌺

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  10. *hugs* I’m glad you’re feeling better now, Josie! It’s definitely tough having to balance so many things on and offline. I agree with you that your life really needs to have a good balance of everything. I majored in psychology and it’s a very competitive field so I tried to get ahead by putting all of my energy into getting good grades and getting work experience. But this made me really anxious and tired all the time because I was so focused on being organised and prepared. I ended up really stepping back and making sure that I spent the same amount of time on school/career, work, exercise, and me-time and I feel a lot better now. You definitely did the right thing taking a break from blogging and from school occasionally! And don’t forget about the precious me-time.

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    • 💕 Yes I’m very glad!
      Ah psychology! As its competitive that must be very challenging! I understand it must have been a huge stress and source of anxiety. That’s how my exams, looming close in less than three weeks has been for me the past few months. I’m glad I’ve managed to sort through and organise myself properly now, but I must start adding exercise into the balance!
      Thank you for your lovely comment! Me time is the best time 😳
      xoxo 💕

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  11. This is brilliant advice! I can’t believe I hadn’t found you sooner! I literally was talking about how I some how need to prioritze my time better in one of my last posts! and then here your post is! Keep it up! Hannah x

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  12. oh Josie, I’m so glad that you’re back! (you’re back, right?)

    You are so right in all that stuff you said… balance is key and I’m so glad that you’re getting better and feeling better 🙂 (I hadn’t realized just how bad things got =/)

    I’m really happy to see you better and I want to keep seeing you like that, ok? ❤

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    • YES! I’m back! Woo hoo!
      Things went downhill very quickly, it was hard to express online and I didn’t want to show much negativity around my social media. But things are looking much better now and yes, I will do my best to keep my head on from here on out!
      💕

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  13. You are only on your last high school year?! Gosh, Josie, you amaze me. This post is so great, and it has so much wisdom and brilliant advice! Really. I thought you were probably in your twenties. Don’t get me wrong. I know age doesn’t define us, but I do think it has something to do with the way we confront problems, and the way you’ve done it.. I don’t think I was half as brave at your age (I am not an old lady now or something, but you know what I mean). Last year of high school is a big deal! So I wish you best of luck and just let me tell you I am super happy you are back. Keep the dark thoughts away, and you know where to find me if you feel like it 🙂

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    • Wow that’s crazy! I didn’t think I gave off that kind of nature vibe. But granted when people see me they think I’m in my twenties and all my friends say I act much older than I am.
      I totally get what you mean! I’ve always been a very deep thinker and I tend to think very inwardly and outwardly to the point where sometimes I think too deeply into things.
      But thank you so much for your lovely comment! It means a great deal to me, really! I will continue to keep those dark thoughts at bay as best I can.
      And thank you for being here for me! The same goes for you too. I’m here for you 💕

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