Greetings bookworms and non-bookworms alike! After a while of contemplating and thinking over this, I’ve finally decided to go ahead with this new feature on my blog! Blogging is all about sharing your thoughts and opinions and while I have many thoughts on bookish topics (because duh, I’m a bookworm), I also have many thoughts about non-bookish topics.
As an aspiring writer, I think this is a good place to start developing my writing to hopefully reach a wide audience of readers on not just life and every day issues, but also on wider issues in our society and in our world.
And therefore I present to you… MONDAY MUSINGS! *cue fireworks and crowd cheering and clapping*
Purpose and success. Two words that contain so much weight to many of us, especially those of us in the early years of our life after graduating high school. Lately, these two words have been a topic weighing upon my mind after recently graduating high school. Purpose: what is life if we don’t know what direction we are moving towards? What is the point in living if we are simply going through a routine of actions that are not leading us to any sort of goal or dream? Success: our lives are bent on success. We thrive on the satisfaction that comes with succeeding, whether that be getting top marks in a test, being the top student, getting a pay rise or getting promoted – success is important and without it, we’d see our lives as being that much less meaningful.
The struggle to find purpose and success in your life, I believe, is at it’s highest after graduating high school. You’ve heard of the mid-life crisis, I’m sure. I’ve heard of many people who are or have been in mid-life crisis’s of their own. And being a freshly graduated high-school student, I’ve seen firsthand the struggle that comes with trying to find a direction for your life. With graduating high-school comes adulthood and stepping into a world of a billion forks in the road. Endless possibilities. And while it sounds exciting, while it sounds as though you’ve got heaps of different opportunities and ways to go forward with your life, the case is not the same for everyone.
I’ve noticed that in my life, especially leading up to my graduation, I’ve been thrown endless opportunities that link directly up to my future and the purpose I have for my life. Since the beginning of this year, I’ve had a clear goal for my life. I want to be a writer, of some sort at least. If you’ve been following my blog for a while, you know that I’ve recently had job offers and opportunities that have paved a possible path for me to follow. And I consider myself blessed. So you may be wondering, “Josie, why are you speaking of this topic if you are confident of your own purpose and success?”? Well, I’m glad you asked.
While I may be confident in the direction of my life in the near future, I am close to quite a few people who do not have the same confidence as I. In fact, I know many people who are unsure of where in the world they will go with their lives now that they have left high-school. I constantly see meme’s about it on Facebook and social media. The other day, a very close friend of mine came to me and told me she was devastated due to the fact that she had no idea where her life was going to go. She expressed how MY life seemed to be full of opportunities and very possible successes and how it made her feel much less sure of her own direction. This was one of the main reasons I’m writing this post.
The struggle to find purpose and success in one’s life is hard and stressful and at times, can make you feel a little hopeless. But I want to give you a few reasons and points that will help to reassure you, whether you recently graduated from high school or college, or are facing a mid-life crisis.
You don’t need to have your future planned out every step of the way
I’m an obsessive planner. Even today, I planned my entire day out in 30 minute increments (what kind of crazy person does that?). And planning my day out precisely, especially in times of stress, is very, VERY comforting for me. Planning is fine, but there are some times in your life when you can’t and should plan in so much detail. One of those is your future. It can be tempting to daydream about where you will go once you leave high-school or college. Dreaming is okay! Establishing a goal for your life is great, but planning out every single detail of your future? It’s not necessary.
This is the time in your life where you should be exploring yourself, finding out what you are passionate about, what you enjoy doing. It’s a time for exploring the world and going on adventures! BE SPONTANEOUS and don’t be discouraged if you have no idea where you are going with your life. It’s okay! Life is short, so live it and make memories.
Everyone’s life is different, don’t compare!
Some people will be more successful than you. There is always someone in your life who will excel more and earlier in life than you. But get this: not everyone can be President of the United States. We all have our own unique lives. Just as we were all created with different appearances and different fingerprints, so are our lives the same. Some people will become well-known and famous well before they turn 25, while others will cruise along in life quietly and reach a point of success at 35.
It’s important that you do not compare the direction of someone else’s life with your own. Everyone has different dreams and goals, and some of us are more determined than others. You have people who stay at work after hours, but you also have those who leave early. We’re all different, and the best way to avoid feeling helpless about your situation is to focus only on yourself. It’s okay to look to others for inspiration, but comparisons should be ruled out.
Be a ‘yes’ person
If you feel as though your life is going no where, take a step back and assess your life. How do you approach opportunities that come your way? Do you take them with enthusiasm or do you avoid them because they are out of your comfort zone? I have social anxiety. Meaning, the idea of doing certain things freaks me out to the point of my body physically reacting with fear. And yet, in my last two years of school, I found myself in situations that I would have otherwise said no to. Why is this? It’s because I became a YES person. In almost every situation where something was asked of me, despite my social anxiety, I said yes. Sure it caused me stress and anxiety, but I pushed through and when I look back on how I got to where I am, I know that this was one of the biggest factors.
So maybe you feel like you need a little revival in your life, a revival of purpose. Try being a yes person. If someone asks you to do something and you see that it could do no harm and will probably only benefit you, try saying yes! If it’s out of your comfort zone and makes you nervous, even better!
Success is not everything
I don’t know about you, but when I don’t achieve something I was hoping to achieve, it discourages me. Success is something that we hold close to us. It boosts our self esteem. But I think it’s very important not to put too much focus on success. So you didn’t get that really great job you wanted. So, you didn’t get an A in that test. So, you didn’t get into the university of your choice? It’s discouraging, but you don’t need to succeed in everything. The way we build ourselves up and bounce back stronger is through failure. We get introspective and we accept our failure and determine ourselves to do better next time.
What’s more important than success is memories. Don’t lose all perspective on life for the idea of being successful. For what is life if we end up rich and popular without family and friends who love you? When we look back on our lives when we are old, what is more valuable to you? Reminiscing about your wealth and success or reminiscing the memories you made travelling, with your friends and such?
Your future is not fixed, take this time to explore ALL possibilities!
I’ll end this extremely long post with this last point. The future is not stagnant. It’s fluid, it’s always changing and there are a million different roads you can travel down. We as humans have such a short lifetime, so don’t spend it worrying that you haven’t achieved enough or that you don’t know what you want to be or what kind of job you want.
Now is the time to discover yourself, discover the world around you and make memories. Sometimes not knowing where your going with your life is a blessing. It means you don’t need to stick to one road in your life. It means you can do whatever the heck your heart feels like doing today, and do a totally different thing tomorrow! SEIZE THE DAY!
Now, after all of that discussing, where to YOU stand on this topic? Let me know in the comments!